Money Relationship Healing

Our culture is fanatical about money. We believe there’s not enough. Even when we have enough in the moment, there’s a projection that our financial future will possibly be bleak. It’s like saying that a poisonous snake will jump out in front of us at any minute during the next 40 years, and we had better prepare. We give away our health, ignore our loved ones, and keep ourselves in overdrive in order to get more money. Our cultural mantra is “More money,” as if money could fix any problem we might face.

We judge people by how much money they have. Women seem to be more attracted to the power money brings than to the looks of a possible mate. We equate success with money and too often forget about the quality of our lives as the most important ingredient of success. Money is the god of our contemporary society.

Money is neutral. It is inanimate. It comes in paper, metal, plastic, and numbers on a computer screen. But if money is neutral, there shouldn’t be a problem, but there is. What is the real problem? The problem lies in our relationship with money. Most people have a dysfunctional relationship with money.

Once we have enough money to pay our bills and to live comfortably, our focus should move toward other kinds of activities, but it usually doesn’t. When it comes to money, there is a lot of fear. If we could heal our fears around money, the world would not only be a better place, greed would dissolve, and our lives could open to a greater happiness. Unfortunately, if our parents worried about money, we will probably worry about money too. Regrettably, we inherit worrying patterns from our elders – but relax, there is hope.

Here are some suggestions that can heal your relationship with money. Remember, having enough money to live a good life is wonderful, but building a life around money, robs us of our lives.

Suggestions for healing your relationship with money.

• Recognize that money is innocent. It is not the root of all evil. It is a neutral means of exchange. It’s okay to have money.
• Write a money worry payoffs page daily for one month. Complete the following: 5 Payoffs (benefits) I receive from worrying about money are:

Examples of payoffs would be:

1. It’s a familiar habit and I identify with it and like to worry.
2. My parents worried about money and I feel disloyal to them if I don’t worry about money.
3. It feeds my addiction to drama and upset.
4. It gives me something to complain about with others.
5. Worrying about money is a game and I like to play it. (“Ain’t it Awful” is a game in which people talk about how awful things are. It could be money, the government, smokers, etc. The activity passes time, but people leave the conversation feeling uncomfortable. Games thwart intimacy.) If you prefer, write 5 payoffs for not having enough money.

• Contemplate this thought for 5 minutes a day for 30 days. “I appreciate the money I have and I am okay with money.” See what comes up. Take notes. Rooting old beliefs from the subconscious mind helps free us from their power over us.
• Make a pact with yourself not to worry about money for 30 days. At the end of 30 days, see how your experiment worked. Did anything bad happen because you didn’t worry? Were you able to break the habit?
• We try to amass money to cover up feelings of lack. My free program “40 Days to Abundance” moves you from lack to abundance.

If you are constantly worried about money, and you have enough to meet your daily needs, I invite you to start the money relationship healing process. It’s never too late to improve your relationship with money, and when you do, you feel better about money, and your life will definitely be EZier and EZier.

Energy Medicine to Help Memory

We hear more and more about energy these days. “I don’t have much energy.”  “This place has bad energy.” “I don’t like his energy.” We have a relatively new field called “energy medicine.” The practice of Reiki is widespread. See Energy Medicine on Oprah’s website, and Reiki on Wikipedia.

The world is waking up to the “meta”physical. Meta means beyond. From the mystic to the psychic, our energy fields are crackling! Everybody wants on board this powerful alternative field that brings better health, improved focus, and more energy.

Acupuncture is an oriental energy medicine. The doctor places needles into small energy points on the body to make stagnant energy flow. Acupressure is like acupuncture, but the practitioner uses their fingers to rub these points, rather than a needle.

The following are acupressure practices that help with memory, clarity, and focus.

These practices are taken from the Modern Reflexology website. You can find pictures on the site that pinpoint the exact spot, in case the directions are not clear to you. The site offers additional exercises for memory, but I find it’s easier to follow three practices than to try to work them all in.

Third Eye Point

Accessing the third eye point will help improve your concentration and memory. This point can be found directly between the eyebrows, where the forehead and bridge of the nose meet. Press this point for 3 to 4 minutes gently. Repeating it 2 to 3 times per day will uplift the spirit and clear your mind

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Sun Point

The sun point can be found in the depression of the temples. It is around one and half inches away from the eyebrows. Pressing this area will help to improve concentration and memory. It will also relieve you from headaches, dizziness, and mental stress. Place two fingers on each of your temples and apply slight pressure for 2 minutes. You can do this 3 times every day for the best results.

Middle of a Person

This point relieves you from cramps, fainting, dizziness, and memory loss. It also helps in strengthening concentration and memory power. Place your finger between the upper lip and nose. This is the middle of a person. Press this point firmly for a few minutes every day. It will be extremely effective if accessed for more than four weeks.

You might want to make three cards to place by your bedside, computer, or your favorite lounging chair. Put a description of each of the energy exercises on a card and practice them while watching TV, listening to music, or at your work desk. The cards also serve as a reminder that sparks our memory when we see them.

Food for Thought

What is your relationship with food? Do you break up and binge, then make up and vow to eat healthier?

It's tough when someone tells us our life styles are self-destructive. Yet deep inside we know when we at war with ourselves. We participate in food wars (aka known as eating junk), wars with friends and others and wars that attack our self-worth. Still, when it comes to eating, unless we are drunk, drugged or out of touch with reality, we have inklings of what kind of foods are good to us and for us. Our food problems tend to be more about staying on track than about amassing more information.

Given the mounting evidence of how physically liberating it can be to eat fresh unprocessed foods (see you  knew that didn't you) wouldn't it be great if there was a thought that would help you stay on track with your eating? Happy days. There is a thought. This amazing thought can help you stay slim, eat well, and help you maintain your perfect relationship with food. Okay, maybe that is a little over the top, but - it really is a fabulous thought. Drum roll - "My health is more important than my appetite." Isn't that a powerful thought to have when ordering food, milling around at a party or grocery shopping? This is a reminder to us that we value our health.

If you had to rate your relationship with food, would you get a good rating? There used to be a restaurant report on TV and the host would give "The Slime Report." The term referred to slime in the ice box. Some food inspector would come unannounced to check out the cleanliness of the restaurant. The reporter took the filthiest restaurants and gave their health scores. It was gruesome. You are your health inspector. Don't let you relationship with food be a slime report; make it a health fair. Keep this thought in a special place where it is easily accessible, "My health is more important than my appetite." I'm counting of you, to eat good food - you know you want to and I hope this thought can reinforce your choice for healthier living. Yum, yum. Eat well and prosper and may the fork be with you.

Happy It's All Right Holiday

Happy “It’s All Right” holiday.  I attended EST in 1981. It was an amazing training. I flourished under the awning of Werner Erhard’s teachings. One of the EST cornerstones was the idea that if we stay present in life and don’t struggle to control and manipulate our problems, life itself will clear them up. If you attended this  EST you’ll love this site. http://www.erhardseminarstraining.com/?page_id=15

 

Most of the time, the things we anticipate as problems, only live in our minds as the product of our need to suffer and struggle. Life is not a struggle. We are the struggle. Scott Kalechstein Grace wrote a great song entitled “I am not addicted to pain.” Today, let’s get out of our heads, forfeit our need to struggle, and celebrate “It’s All Right” day. Check out the theme song for today by the Impressions.

http://www.youtube.com/watch?v=CnZ9wOlDxG0

Happy Appreciate and Take the Stairs Day

I have chosen to make everyday a holiday. Instead of a citizen's arrest, I make a citizen's attest. Today is the "Appreciate and Take the Stairs" National Holiday. I hereby recognize and declare it so.  Everyone knows that we get more exercise when we take the stairs. Would more people take the stairs if it were fun? Check out the video. To honor all the stairs in our lives and what they do by getting us from one level to the other, take the stairs whenever you can today. If you have a two story home make an extra nonproductive trip up and down the stairs to salute all humble and thankless years of service rendered.

I remember the stairs in the home of my youth. My sister and I used to slide down them on our butts or construct a magic carpet, made by an area rug; we'd hop on and rush down the stairs. What fun. Even though we sold the family home in Greenville, NC, I still ride by from time to time when I'm in the area. I know the stairs are still standing and hope some cute little kid is getting butt rub on those stairs. Happy National Appreciate and Take the Stairs Day.

Exercise Flow

Go with your personal flow when it comes to exercise. I change up my exercises from time to time. My body just says: "This is not fun anymore. Do something else." So I find something more in line with my current flow. 

Walking is a steady for me, but the arms exercise, the stretching routine I've developed is about 8 months old. I know it will change in the future. In warmer weather I go more for bicycling. Keep it interesting. Music always helps me and I love the listening to the oldies channel to do my jumping. I sit on an exercise ball and jump up and down - flapping my arms around and belting out the words to old songs I haven't heard in years. I go for 5 minutes of jumping, but often go 10 or 15. Jumping gets the lymph system flowing. I love it. My dog jumps with me. She puts her feet on my legs and up and down we go. She likes to get in on my 60 daily pushups too. The message today is to go with your flow. There's no business like flow business.

Will You Marry Me?

Will you marry me? Not in the conventional sense. I mean will you think of me with love, respect me, and value me in mistakes or in my brightness. Will you think good thoughts about me and say wonderful things about me? Think about your answer. If your answer is yes that we can have a wonderful union.
I know it's not up to you to make me feel good,  so I'll just commit to love you, think good thoughts about you and to continue to think well of you even when you are snarky and make a mistake. I know we may only be cyber friends, so why would I speak of such emotional intimacy? How many times do we cater to a voice that cares what others think? These are the others we will never know. So if I am going to have thoughts about people I don't know, and what they may think of me or my ideas, I might as well think they love me and are on my side. See my point. I benefit in two ways. I get too feel how it feels to send out love and affection and in my imagination I can receive it as well. Happy people are not only nicer, they are healthier as well.

Eat well and prosper. Yum Yum. Rejoice, rejoice - there is no choice. Be too blessed to be stressed. I guess I've made my point. Love ya.

Go Green Cake Bake

Hi Folks,

I posted my intention to bake a cake on Facebook last night and Mary Valk asked for the recipe if it turned out well. I won't taste it until tonight, but it smells great so I'm sharing the making if the cake, now. This is not the healthiest cake in the world, but I'm going for a natural cake without chemicals. I did make and exception with the cherries. 

Bottom Layer for Cake

Heat oven to 350 Degrees. Put about 1/2 stick of organic butter in a 9 X 13 inch pan and melt it in oven. Take pan out cover the bottom with as much raw turbinado sugar as you want (or use organic brown sugar). Slice fresh pineapple and place in pan. Put Maraschino cherries in pineapple holes. Fill in other spaces with chopped pecans.

Set aside and get out three bowls

All ingredients should be at room temperature.

Bowl one - Fill with 3 ¼ cups whole wheat pastry flour ( I used King Arthur white whole wheat)

1 ½ tsp. baking powder (Use non aluminum version - regular baking powder has aluminum which is linked to Alzheimers)

½ tsp. baking soda

Mix all these ingredients and set aside

Bowl two - fill with one cup of plain yogurt  (try Horizon with the fat - be sure to stir the cream in from the top before using - this is the best yogurt I've ever tasted - I only eat milk products on special occasions - most people do not do that well with dairy products) and two teaspoons of real vanilla (notice the imitation is made of chemicals). Set aside.

Bowl three - Two sticks of salted organic butter, 1/2 teaspoon sea salt (I like pink Himalayan sea salt - Celtic sea salt is good too).

1 ½ cups organic sugar (fair trade evaporated cane sugar) http://www.greenamericatoday.org/proGrams/fairtrade/products/sugar.cfm

 

Whip these together until fluffy - or do the best you can. Fluffy might be an overstatement of what's possible here.

 

Add four room temperature organic locally produced free range eggs (help end factory farming for chickens - the chickens suffer unmercifully in these big farms, not to mention how unhealthy the eggs are - chemicals, etc injected in hens).



Add 1/3 flour mixture to sugar mixture, then 1/3 yogurt mixture and continue until all ingredients are mixed. Put mixture on top of the pineapple concoction.




Time to tasty - wow gooood!

 





Put it in the preheated 350 degree oven on top shelf. Smell the wonderful kitchen aroma. Wait about 30 minutes and check the middle to see if it's done. My oven cooks pretty fast but put it back if it's not done. Pardon me on this, I'm sure you have this much sense.



Baking away.







It's a done deal.

 Will turn it over later tonight before I go to my friend's home.



And don't forget to compost the waste.



http://www.howtocompost.org/

Now this is a healthier cake. Healthier for my friends and myself and healthier for the planet. Go green.

WARNING - do not cook in a glass pan. The outside gets done too fast. Use metal pan. I dumped the cake out and found the center to be raw. I didn't find this out until it was cool. It passed the toothpick test so I didn't know there was a problem. I did not want to turn it over again - one time over was a feat. So I then cooked it 40 minutes longer with the pineapple side up. I just kept putting butter (it seems if I add butter or rum to anything it tastes great) on it so it wouldn't dry out and it tasted yummy. I think I used three sticks of butter in this cake so you know it was rich.

Posted by Anne Sermons Gillis